A man, who lives in the Ikoyi area of Lagos state who wishes to remain anonymous, and who won’t mention her former hobby’s name has shared on X (formerly Twitter) how his girlfriend of eight years dumped him on Boxing Day of 2024 and got married on New Year’s Day of 2025.
The festive season is often a time for joy, love, and merriment with our loved ones. However, for one man who lives in Ikoyi, the festive season will forever leave a scar in his memory as a time of sorrow, heartbreak, and betrayal. The man shares the sad tale on his Twitter handle of how his girlfriend of eight years dumped him on Boxing Day, only to get married to another man below him socioeconomically on New Year’s Day.
Two love birds met
“How did my journey begin before it ended with my girlfriend of eight years?” The man started his narration with a question. He continued. “I had gone to withdraw some cash one sunny afternoon on Friday, June 17th, 2016 in one of the Commercial Banks on Victoria Island when I met this pretty, tall, plumpy-skinned lady who queued behind me. After I withdrew some cash and left the Banking Hall. I saw her come out like 5 minutes afterward as I was about to open the door of my car. To cut a long story short, I gave her a free ride to Agungi as I saw it as an opportunity for acquaintance. She alighted at her bus stop. We exchanged phone numbers. I continued my journey down to Epe for an appointment thereafter. We started calling each other frequently and became entangled in the web of love six months after our first meeting at the Bank. We called each other different romantic names, as I believe our love was made in heaven.
“There was no year I didn’t send a birthday message and gifts to my girlfriend of eight years.
I sent happy birthday wishes to her, and my friends also did the same. I often send a love message every morning via WhatsApp to my girlfriend that will make her cry as I’m a gifted poet.”
How the Relationship Storm Started
The man who had been in a relationship with his girlfriend of eight years stated that on the surface, everything seemed perfect. They had built a life together, shared countless memories, and had even talked about starting a family. However, beneath the façade, cracks had begun to appear.
“We had been growing apart for months from November 2023,” he recalled. “We would argue about the smallest things, and our conversations had become stale. She even told me I wasn’t romantic enough and wasn’t a man on the bed, despite all the love I showered on her. I tried to brush it off, thinking that we just needed some time to reconnect. I even wrote an apology letter to my girlfriend of eight years to affirm I won’t replace her with another lady.”
The Bombshell hit me
But little did the man know that his girlfriend of eight years had already made up her mind and had other plans. On Boxing Day, which was December 26th, 2024, she dropped the bombshell, telling him that she needed space and time to focus on herself.
“I was devastated,” he said. “I had no idea that she was feeling that way. I thought we were happy, or at least, I thought we were working through our issues together. I thought we would mend the seemingly broken fence between us.”
‘The final Bullet that killed me’
But the worst was yet to come. Just a few days later, on New Year’s Day, that’s January 1st, 2025, he discovered that his ex-girlfriend had got married to another man.
“I was in shock,” he said. “I couldn’t understand how she could move on so quickly after Boxing Day. It felt like our entire relationship meant nothing to her. I had been taking many bullets literarily speaking, but the final bullet that killed me was when I found out about the January 1st traditional marriage of my girlfriend of eight years through her Twitter handle where she posted the photos.”
Nightmares over nightmares
The man’s world was turned upside down. He struggled to come to terms with the breakup and the subsequent marriage of his ex-girlfriend to a man who looked like a pauper in the traditional marriage photos. He felt betrayed, hurt, and confused.
“I went through a range of emotional damage – anger, sadness, depression, and suicidal thoughts,” he said. “I couldn’t eat, sleep, or concentrate on anything for more than three days. I felt like my world had come to an end. My parents, siblings, friends, colleagues, and boss at work felt so sad for me and were the ones who helped me during my downtime, as the depression made me think of suicide. I thought of jumping into the Lagoon from the 3rd Mainland Bridge.”
Advice to all men out there
As he reflects on the experience, the man realizes that there were signs that he had ignored, and advised all men to be wary of such red flags early in their relationship.
“I was blind to the signs,” he said. “I didn’t want to see that our relationship was in trouble, and about hitting the rock. I was too invested in the relationship.”
‘I can’t kill myself’
Today, January 8th, the man is slowly rebuilding his life. He’s focusing on self-care, reflection, and personal growth.
“I’m taking things one day at a time,” he said. “I’m re-focusing on my life and personal happiness. I’m learning to love myself again. I discovered that a long relationship/courtship of more than three years isn’t worth it. I agree with Timaya when he said I can’t kill myself in one of his songs.”
There are so many lessons to learn from this man’s story. It is a heartbreaking reminder that relationships can be complex and unpredictable. However, it’s also a testament to the human spirit’s ability to heal, reflect, and move forward.
If you’re going through a similar experience, remember that you’re not alone. Take time to heal, reflect, and focus on yourself. And always remember, love yourself first.
As a woman also, have you had a similar experience to this man in your past relationship?
